Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Settling in Utah and Feeling Grateful

 After we arrived in Utah (thanks to the help and sacrifice of my mom and Jared's Dad) I felt like we just had to pause a take a deep breath! We stayed upstairs with Jared's parents for several days while Jared and Lillian had to be quarantined and cared for as they were suffering from (what we assume was) Influenza.  My mom got a nasty sinus infection and the rest of us had mild colds, etc.  The move  had definitely taken a toll on us!

Jared's family, which is plentiful around here, turned up in huge crowds to help us unload all of our belongings into a portion of Jared's grandma's garage and his parent's garage.  They are amazing for allowing us to store our belongings in their space AND rent their basement to us at a super low cost while we house hunt and let the kids finish the school year.  Speaking of the basement...It is amazing!  We have our own full size kitchen and laundry room, 3 bedroom, 2 bath, and our front door walks out into the most amazing backyard.  My kids will have trouble leaving.  A sport court, park-worthy playground, tree house, garden, plenty of grass area, firepit and pergola patio area, trampoline, sledding hill, you name it!  We are feeling blessed that his parents are so generous to share it all with us.


This is random, but it just cracks me up when I come upon scenes like this (like the other day). It makes me wonder what in the world happened?! Anyhow...back to real life

There was also a miracle surrounding the move (that we became aware of afterward) which left us feeling overwhelmed with gratitude and humility.  Although we knew that we were both feeling ready for a change since October, we did not have a specific end date or motivation for leaving CA and Jared's job.  Perhaps it was Jared's bike accident in October where he literally had to be hit on the head to make a change??  He says he just felt like it was "wrong" to be at his job and I was feeling financially overwhelmed after the accident and our recent health insurance switch.  We decided to expand the job search and felt right about accepting the job with the firm in Utah.  As it turns out, apparently the same exact day we were moving to Utah, Jared's co-workers showed up at work and all the attorneys (besides the partners) were laid off.  No severance package, no warning, no continuation of health benefits.  Just fired.  I do not think Jared's health or my nerves could have handled being unemployed so suddenly.  However stressful and overwhelming the move was, no matter how much we are missing California, we KNEW without a doubt the Lord had been watching over us.  Our heart is aching for Jared's co-workers, several of whom he has called to check in with.  Everyone was broadsided and we are so grateful to be employed and have a bright future ahead of us.

Jared started work a few days after the move when he was still feeling under the weather, but has adjusted to the new routine since then.  It honestly seems very similar to his old job in terms of what is expected of him.  They took his picture for the company website and he put together his bio (isn't he handsome?):
Bio from the Thorpe North and Western website: Jared is a registered patent attorney and has a practice focused in U.S. intellectual property law, particularly in patent prosecution. His practice centers on computer technology including software and hardware. Jared’s technical background encompasses material science and optics including research in electrical properties of thin film insulators. His understanding of physics gives him the tools needed to understand a wide range of technologies.
He has drafted patents on topics such as software and business methods, computer networking and communications, peer-to-peer technology, medical devices, traffic detecting devices, hard disk drives, and nanotechnology. In addition to patent prosecution, Jared has experience with freedom to operate opinions, IP landscape reports, prior art searches, and contract review. He also enjoys spending time with his family and home improvement projects. They also added this little blurb next to his picture:
Jared cut his teeth prosecuting patents in the Silicon Valley. While working in this global technology hub, Jared amassed significant experience across a wide array of technologies and served the IP needs of start-up tech companies as well as established technology titans. He has prosecuted hundreds of patents and Jared’s clients rely on his insight and skill in identifying and protecting their innovations.

 Now that life has slowed down, we were finally able to take advantage of the "bowling night" given to us by Tausha and Nate at Christmas.  They had awesome lanes for cheaper than CA and let us choose for each person whether or not to have bumpers.  I have to say-I was ahead the entire game (starting out with two strikes!!) and Jared had an underdog win by one point in his very last frame.  What a fun night!  Thanks, Andersons!

Family Bowling Night
We got the girls settled into school at Lindon elementary school and they seem to be adjusting well.  They are attending a school where their Grandma is the secretary, their great aunt is the computer teacher, their great uncle is the yard duty, and their aunt also works on campus with special needs children. Jocelyn is in a class with her 1st cousin once removed, Lillian has her cousin in her class and they have several more cousins on campus in various grades.   As far as a move, they are in a cocoon being surrounded by family!  We have jumped right into rotating Sunday dinners with family and cookie night at Great Grandma's house. 
The girls hanging out at Giuliana's one evening
 However, they certainly miss their friends at Paradise Valley Elementary and have skyped with several of their friends.  Jocelyn came home last week from school and had a good cry saying "she just missed CA!"

Jonas at his preschool music fieldtrip
 Jonas stayed home with Emma and I for a couple weeks, then jumped into preschool head first attending a field trip with his class!  He, of course, goes to a preschool with 2 cousins, one 1st cousin once removed and a 2nd cousin! LOL.  They went to a music store and learned all about the different groups of instruments and listened to demos, played some instruments then followed it up by going to a nearby Krispy Kreme Donut shop to watch donuts being made and partaking of the sugar!! Even younger siblings were allowed to join us.

 
Krispy Kreme portion of the field trip
 Living near family and old friends definitely has some perks.  We took lunch to Aunt Kelsey and saw where she works one day on the way to visit another friend who went to China with me 16 years ago!  We did not get any pictures with Kristin and her cute kids, but had a great time seeing her house and catching up.  We are scheduled to meet up with another friend I grew up with next week. Earlier this week we visited Jared at work one afternoon to see his new office.  On Saturday we met at my Uncle Travis and Aunt Heidi's house for some goodies and old fashioned spoiling for my kids.  Several of their daughters came as well and it was so fun to catch up with everyone!  My aunt offered my kids some creamies.  They looked at her blankly so I told them "you will want to answer 'yes please'!"  I turned to my aunt and explained they were still getting used to Utah traditions and treats!
Visiting Aunt Kelsey at Work
Visiting Daddy at Work
 Another Utah perk: We were able to visit the Provo City Center Temple open house and let our kids go through the temple before it was dedicated, then we will attend the dedication with Jocelyn next week!!  It is such a beautiful and unique building and you can tell they tried to stay true to the historic significance of the building even though they were rebuilding after a devastating fire.

At the Provo City Center Temple Open House
Our other exciting news is that we bought some baby chicks!  Our kids have wanted a pet for a long time and were trying to use the move to Utah as a bargaining chip to get a dog.  I decided I could compromise with some chickens.  At least they live more like 2 years rather than 14 yrs like a dog, they cost a lot less, and they give back a little in the form of eggs. And, we go through a lot of eggs.  We decided each person could get one chick.  We researched different breeds and decided to go with three varieties that are notably good with egg laying and good with kids/handling.  Meet Olive, Cali, Lacy, Ella, Oscar (yes, we told Jonas it was a girl), and Minnie (short for Minnie mouse).  It has been great for the kids to learn about caring for a pet and taking on some new responsibilities (since we have been taking a break from piano).  Especially Jocelyn did a lot of research and visited the IFA with Jared to really prepare the brooder and purchase all the required equipment.  We met with a man that goes to church with Jared's parents who has been taking care of hens for years and has about 40 new birds per year.  He showed us and the kids more than we'll ever need to know about caring for chicks (JK, it was very informative and helpful).  The kids are thrilled. So far, we only had to replace two (one that died and one that was super sick so we exchanged at the store).  It is fun to celebrate new life and see them stepping up to the responsibility of caring for another living creature!

The crew holding their new baby chicks. Only 3 days old
 The kids had Monday off of school so Kelsey joined me as I took them up to Logan for a day trip.  I pointed out the apartment complex where Jared and I met, a quick drive around campus, etc.  Ever since Christmas when Grammy's health was not doing well and I was not able to make it up there for a visit I knew I wanted to make that a priority!  We picked up some Aggie Ice Cream and pizzas so we could share with friends and family at my Grammy's cabin.  I was able to catch up with my cousin and old roommate, as well as a quick visit with an aunt and a couple other cousins. The kids had fun running around outside, getting double servings of Aggie Ice cream and loves from Grammy.  We tried to meet up with Jared's little brother who goes to school at USU, but he was working so we just took him some extra food.  It was so great of Kelsey to join us and we had such a great day!





Caitlyn Martie and Marci
Grammy with Otterstrom Kids
Caitlyn Grammy and Kelsey

House Projects and Goodbyes

 Once we decided to move I felt like it was a whirlwind from there on out. Finishing teaching Emma's preschool while making final preparations for the house to be on the market, completing house projects and packing was just crazy!!!  We met with a couple realtors and put together a timeline for putting the house on the market.  We hired out the cleaning, thank goodness, and my mom came to assist us one week but Jared was trying to finish up his work for his old firm, while starting work with the new firm and finishing up house projects in the mean time (all the while in the middle of a flare up).  Like I said C-R-A-Z-Y.  Luckily, we knew we were just going to move into Jared's parent's basement and enroll the girls into elementary school where Jared's mom is the secretary so getting that end of the move squared away was simple. Jonas was also going to jump into preschool with his cousins. We could just focus on the logistics of selling and moving out of our CA house.
Jocelyn's "NOT" for sale sign
Jocelyn has a hard time with change in general so she was not happy about the thought of moving and was making her opinions known! For instance, when I brought the kids home from school one day I told them-you will see a surprise in front of our house.  Lillian slammed the car door and told me "That For Sale sign is the worst surprise EVER!" Jocelyn tried to pull it out of the ground for a good 20 minutes, wore herself out and napped for an hour.  The next day she made these "NOT" for sale signs (see above) and spit on the realtor's rug placed in front of our door.  We said goodbye to school friends and our spring time weather, church friends and neighbors-with plenty of tears in the mix for all.
Goodbye to Paradise Valley Elementary
One early-out day when we needed to be out of the house for an open house anyway and Jared was gone to Utah taking a U-haul truck and towing his car, I pulled the kids out of school early and went to the beach for a couple hours. I told them to soak up some sunshine because they might not see it for a couple months!! Although it felt crazy to do that when we had so many other responsibilities, it was such a great break for all of us!  My friends were amazing through the whole transition.  Watching kids, bringing meals or supportive words.  Sending their teenagers over to work for a couple hours for hire so we could meet deadlines.  I felt so blessed and knew we were being watched over by the Lord.  My mother in law called one day and told me about an experience she had in the temple and it was just what I needed to hear to know the Lord knew our situation.
Our quick getaway to the beach one afternoon

One of the most hectic days with trying to keep the house spotless and ready for open houses and walk-throughs was when Jared was in Utah taking the first load of our stuff (that was an unpleasant endeavor in itself) and the front door knob decided to break.  It had been giving us some troubles and I did not want it to be an issue so I had been back and forth to Home Depot three times getting a whole new door knob re-keyed, etc. and Greg (my BIL) kindly came to install it the night before.  It worked beautifully until 20 minutes before the open house.  The handle would not engage AT ALL and the door was completely bolted closed.  Despite efforts from myself, kneeling in prayer, kind neighbors and the realtor it would not budge.  I was in a huge panic.

We were supposed to be welcoming 40+ realtors through the house and their first impression would be a useless front door and having to come in through the garage (where we had shoved EVERYTHING to allow for a spotless house).  Good Grief!!  So embarrassing. My realtor looked at me like "Are you serious??"  I was at a loss!!  We scheduled a handyman for that night so it would be ready for the next day. It took the handyman a LONG time and completely breaking the brand new handle and door to get it to open so I did not feel as dumb.  He installed a brand new knob after two visits.  It was completely lame, but at the same time, completely a first world problem so Jared calmed me down from afar and flew in the next night to help with the final preparations.

The house came together pretty well and we listed it for sale for $828,000.  This was literally double what we paid for 3 1/2 years ago.  All our hard work was paying off.  Even more miraculous was that we received an offer 10 days later for $840,000 so we are in contract and hoping all goes smooth with that!  But seriously, look at how this house has transformed (mostly due to Jared's hard work):

Before & After Pictures








 
Kitchen
 

 

 







Then came the most emotionally trying parts of the move: Saying Goodbye to Friends.  My amazing friend Jody took my middle two kids for two days in a row (even cut our hair and took them to the beach and McDonald's) while we sent Emma and Jocelyn up to my parent's house for several days so Jared and I could focus on packing and gearing up to leave.  I pictured us both being able to sort through and organize everything into Long term/Short term and really make sense of the move.  However, reality proved me wrong again. Jared came down with what we assume was Influenza and a storm was threatening to change our driving plans to Utah. 

Instead, we relied on my SIL Maren and my visiting teacher to come pack our entire kitchen and closets. She seriously spent two days helping us pack while Claire put up with the constraints of the pack & play (even while I went on a final Girls Night Out with Jody and Mary).  We hired some teenagers from the ward and asked Missionaries to help with home decor, furniture, etc. We had to run back and forth to U-Haul to figure out logistics of Trucks and trailers. Some absolute saints from church came to help vacuum and wipe down cabinets last minute and we hurried everything into two days instead of 5 days to get out the door. I was an absolute wreck the last couple hours.  It started when we realized we could not bring our beloved lockers with us and continued from there...Just balling as neighbors and friends stopped by to say goodbyes and friends were helping us get last minute items in the truck.  We were all spent physically and emotionally and it showed!!

We were on the road to Dixon to pick up the girls and my mom that night, then on the way to Reno to pick up Jared's dad the next morning so we could make the trek through Nevada as quick as possible before the storm arrived.  All the hard work paid off.  I had rarely towed a trailer before, yet I found myself hauling four kids and my mom over a snowy Donner pass with a trailer, then continue to drive (with a short nap break) for the duration of the day. We finally arrived in Utah super late the next night!!
Jonas and Robbie
Saying goodbye to the bakkers (the neighbors through the fence) was so hard!
One last dinner at the Hulses

Jocelyn with her Activity Day Girls at Church
Caitlyn and Val at one last Relief Society Activity
Going to Yogurtland with the Evans one last time
Emma and Claire hanging out one last time
Lillian's friend Maddie visited and made her a travel package. Her mom put together this cute collage
The morning of the move!!  The entire move I felt the guidance of the Lord.  The scripture Doctrine & Covenants 84:88 came to mind: "And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. I will be on your right hand and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you, to bear you up."  We could not have done this without the amazing friends, family and neighbors helping us every step of the way.